22nd Aug 2011

I ask X if I can stay in the house while she’s away for the extra week, she says no.  All I want to do is get my stuff together.

20th Aug 2011

Texts about X’s horrid Dad changing the locks on the house, I cant get my stuff.

19th Aug 2011

Texts about little uns Birthday gift, X asked if I would have Daughter when she went to collect her sister from airport on 25th Aug.

18th Aug 2011

Text and call of X, she’s asking if I minded her going back on holiday 29th Aug-2nd Sep 2011.  She said she would be back a day later than planned if i didn’t agree.  Signs of things to come?….. we text about the extra week.

Tues 16th Aug 2011

X goes away for the week with little un.

Monday 15th Aug 2011

I go to X’s on evening, I bathed daughter and put her to bed when X went to get fish and chips.

Sat 14th Aug-Sun 15th Aug 2011

Texts through night to and from X, she’s being nice we talk about making this work as friends.  Good friends even, this is what I want I don’t want to be at war with the X when there’s a child involved.  I’m sure this can work.

2nd August 2011

My last Relate session, worker there cant believe after all the work we did it’s all over.  I tell him I’m not that bothered anymore and feel positive about things.

26th July 2011

X attended Relate session alone, we spoke after maybe things can be repaired.  For the next week text and talk and actually get on better than ever….Very weird.

25th July 2011 The row which ended it.

We had a big row today, it all stemmed from X wanting to go away.  I didn’t have a problem with this, the only thing I had problems with was being told at the last minute.  Most of our rows came from lack of communication, we have been going to Relate and this was the problem that was pinpointed out to us.  All X had to do was tell me things in advance and likewise with me.  X had planned on going away for a family trip with the horrid 2 and this wasn’t a problem, then her Sister dumped her BF again and there was an opportunity for X to go abroad for a week.  She was more than happy to deprive the little un of a holiday so she could go away.

I arranged everything so it was possible for them to do it, such as alternative arrangements to get little un to day care, asking family members if they would change there plans for the week to accommodate X’s plans for the week.  Such as brothers arranging someone else to drop their children off at school cause my Mom who normally did it would be taking my Daughter to daycare.

As the time grew closer X and her sister still hadn’t sorted out flights and I didn’t want my family to arrange stuff unnecessarily.  I asked but got no answers, I got accused of hassling the X’s sister about making a decision after sending her one text about it.

Five days before they were due to go 25th July.

Im chatting to the then Girlfriend about stuff, I’m at work so just one of those BF/GF chats.  Then she says she’s not going abroad and she’s taking Daughter away for the week, I’m a bit pissed off because yet again I’m being told stuff at the last minute.  I said I’ll be back in half hour (Early finish) so we could chat about it then, she hangs up then immediately sends a text saying she’s going to her brothers quoting “Is that a problem”.  Well you know what?  Now it is a problem not only is she telling me stuff at the last minute again, she’s being rude about it and going out when she know’s I’m due home imminently.  I love finishing work early and spending time with my Daughter it’s now what I live for I absolutely love spending time with her.

Anyway I get home and she’s gone, I call and she doesn’t answer, I text no reply.  It’s 12:30 and I try throughout the afternoon and nothing.  I get a bit worried and decide to drive to her sisters, I get there and her cars there, her sisters car and her brothers car.  I look over the fence and my daughters outside alone, I knock the front door no answer, then her stoner brother comes to the door and tells me to calm fucking down.  I tell him to get my Daughter he stands the other side of the porch for a mo then goes into the house.  He comes into the porch holding my daughter and then I notice how fucking stoned he looks, he’s a drug user and then I’m freaking out a bit.  I no longer want him holding my daughter reeking of cannabis I want her.  I raise my voice and he gives her too me.  I get into my car and wait for my Mom to turn up with the spare car seat (I’d called when I arrived at the house) So I sit in the car with my Daughter on the passenger seat and then the X freaks the fuck out.  OK if she thought I was actually going to drive off with my daughter then she had a point but I wasn’t.  In the end I got her car keys and she had my car and I left.

I stayed at my Moms that night and haven’t been back.  I apologised to her sister about causing a scene outside her house and she was cool.  She replied “It’s Ok, don’t think I hate you.x”